My mom called asking for money. She couldn’t give me a number amount, she just kept saying ‘Whatever you can.’ Well, I can’t. So she asked me to send $50 to cover something so it didn’t overdraft and I forgot. She got $70 in overdraft fees. I feel guilty, of course, but I honestly don’t think I should. She knows I’m negative right now because I had to buy that new computer. I’m almost insulted she asked right now. She called this morning and mentioned it and I just said “I don’t know” and she accused me of telling her I would help and changing my mind. I remember saying a lot of “ifs” but not ever telling her I would send her money.
Sure, I could send her money, she could pay her bills. I’d lose a big chunk of my savings, but she’d be out of trouble. Maybe if she hadn’t come to me like this so many times before, I wouldn’t be so hesitant. Maybe if she had paid me back, like she said, all those times before.. The deal is this, she decided one day she was moving back to her home town. She stated to me that she was aware she was in no way financially able to do this, but that she had decided to. At no point during the time coming up did she mention maybe needing my help.. Maybe I could have tried to set some aside, just in case.
My brother just moved to NC and that puts him at a 4 hour drive from me. After being thousands of miles away, he’s finally close enough for me to visit. I had planned to go this weekend and I told him. Today I called and he said “How long does it take?” so I told him “4 hours.” He said that he had no idea it was so far and that we should wait a week or two. Well, I can’t come next week. Or the week after. Or, hey, the week after that. And it’s not like I’d spend the night there even if I had more than one day. I understand he’s still moving in, but I was going to help. Basically, it’s tomorrow or Thanksgiving. I don’t really want to wait.
I don’t know.. why can’t people just say what they mean instead of beating around the bush? I don’t know where that saying came from, but I’m glad it exists because I couldn’t think of another way to say it. Hah. Oh well.